Tuesday, June 26, 2012
I'm not the Mother I thought I'd be!
Like any woman anticipating life as a mother, I had expectations.
You know the, 'my children will ....... my children won't .........' expectations.
And then I had babies.
Three to be exact.
My expectations of the mother I thought I would be are all but gone.
I thought I'd restrict TV time.
I thought I'd make all their meals from scratch.
I thought I'd avoid take out.
I thought I'd be in charge.
But in reality you can never predict the life you will lead as a mother.
It's a journey you share in, one that can only be determined by the two of you (or the tribe, if that's the case).
Six and a half years on, my TV is running hot. It's often the only way I can get my children to sit still. Trying to entertain them for a full day is hard.
There are a lot of hours in the day.
My kids don't go without, I provide activities, I try and provide stimulation, but I am OK with the fact that they will need (I will need them) to pull up a bean bag and chill out.
Further more my kids are in love with the Wii, their DSi and the iPad. I just didn't anticipate that I'd go there, especially with my 2 year old. But I have learn't that this is simply the way the world is moving.
They want to be like their peers and own a Wii. I'm sure there will be plenty of things I won't let my kids do 'just because everyone else does' but for the most part you just want them to feel normal, like everyone else.
As for my youngest, I know he is too young, I put it down to the pitfalls of number 3. He is a stubbon little bugger and simply wants to do what his big brother and sister do. I am amazed every time I watch him navigate his way around the Wii or iPad.
As for food, really it's about control, I've tried to control my children, dictate what they will and won't eat. But it get's you no where. Tears, anger, stress, is all I get.
Again, I do have limitations, I don't feed my kids junk food all the time, but I do surprise myself at the amount of rubbish they can consume.
They are snackers, biscuits would have to be the highest consumed food in our home. It's a constant battle to offer healthy alternatives, you win some you lose some. I try for middle ground but I'm no saint.
So I'm not the mother I expected to be, however I'm comfortable (most the time) with the mother I've become.
Are you the mother you expected to be?
What's the one thing you never thought you'd do as a mother?