Thursday, September 20, 2012
Following in your parents footsteps.
My daughter is growing up, well they all are really, but I'm noticing it with her more so.
I think it's school, the learning, the reading, the observing.
The ability to navigate their way around a play ground in your absence, the need to stand on their own two feet.
I notice, that she notices.
It's got me thinking.
I need to think more about my behaviours, what impact it's having on my children, what I'm teaching them is acceptable or unacceptable.
I've been thinking a lot recently about alcohol. I go through phases with drinking. Sometimes I draw a line in the sand and try not to drink very much, stay in control and then other times I just drink too much and make no apology for it, I've had fun.
But now I have an audience, one that is very dear to me. I'm conscious that my actions will impact their decision making in the future.
As a teenager, I tried my hand at underage drinking. I've made a fool of myself, done stupid things. At times I've looked back on those moments with regret, but now I try to accept that I cannot change the past but accept that every moment, every decision has moulded me into the person I am today.
We say, 'If I had my time over' thing is, we do have our time over in a sense, through our children. Sure we can't ultimately control every thing they do, but we can influence them to not make the same mistakes we did.
I don't want my children, regardless of gender to get themselves into situations they may regret because of alcohol. Especially in this digital age, where people capture and share everything. I worry for them and ultimately know that to steer them in the right direction, I need to teach them, through my actions what is acceptable.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not turning into the fun police or anything. I still want to be able to go out and have a good time with my friends. But I am drawing the line in the sand (again) I do truly believe there is a happy medium and I'm determine to teach my children that.
Any words of advice from more experienced parents?